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Carolyn Hax: Husband has reshaped his social life around a close female friend

“Just friends,” husband says, in response to having an extroverted female friend in his social circle while his introverted spouse is out of it.

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(Illustration by Nick Galifianakis for The Washington Post)
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Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My husband has a very close female friend. They met at work 15 years ago; we’ve been married for 25.

She’s extremely extroverted, while I am an introvert. He’s kind of in between but definitely craves more social interaction than I do.

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